I don’t think we’ve seen the last of harassment accusations. Quite the contrary, December 3rd begins a Mercury Retrograde. Retrogrades are times of reflection, where the past comes back to help or haunt.
I think a lot of women haunted will speak up, even though years have passed.
It has got me thinking of the past as well. I have held many jobs, always searching for my niche until writing found me. Harassment comes with many faces, and I have seen most of them. Harassment with unwanted physical attempts, harassment with demeaning comments and harassment due to age. I didn’t work while my children were small; in my forties, I went back to find “fulfillment.”
Instead, I found how tough it is for a mature woman to be valued above the minimum wage positions. I found a job in a high powered attorney’s office. For low wages, the work of really three employees was put on my shoulders and the stress was overwhelming. The woman who held my position before had left with a life threatening illness. As I sat in her chair, I worried how all this stress might affect me. Was it worth it? I decided no and walked into his office and gave my notice,
He looked at me with a smirk and said……….”You know you will never get better than this, at your “age” ……… you will never amount to anything.
I went to work for an older woman who had been a professional Realtor/Broker all her life. I helped manage her office, then, eventually went on to school and became a Realtor myself. The very first house I sold, the buyer used this lawyer. As I stepped in the legal office of the seller’s attorney with my Broker at my side, we all exchanged “pleasantries.” I looked at him, he looked at me and under his breath said, “We know each other.” I collected my commission check (in the thousands) and left, feeling like one of the worst reflections of my life had turned into one of the best days of my life.
I think most of us have all been harassed in one way or several. It’s how we show our strength, not our defeat that counts.
Real Estate wasn’t my place, writing is. But I will always remember standing in that office as that man told me I would amount to nothing without his job.
Use this Mercury Retrograde to reflect, learn, and move forward with renewed confidence and strength.